The Question We Don’t Hear Enough: “When Was the Last Time Someone Told You How Important You Are?”

There are questions that pierce through the noise of everyday life, and this is one of them. When was the last time someone told you how important you are? Not how useful, not how productive, not how much you accomplish—simply how important you are as a human being.

Women are often raised to care for others first. We nurture, we support, we listen, we hold everything together even when no one sees the effort. And because of that, we sometimes forget that we, too, deserve reminders of our worth.

We Give Love Freely, But Rarely Receive It Verbally

Think about it. You’re the friend who checks in. The daughter who remembers birthdays. The coworker who notices when someone is struggling. The woman who quietly holds people while they fall apart and expects nothing in return.

But when was the last time someone held you with words?

When someone stopped and said:

“You matter to me.”
“I’m grateful you exist.”
“I don’t know what I’d do without you.”

Most of us can’t remember. And that’s the problem.

You Shouldn’t Have to Earn Your Importance

Your worth is not measured by how much you give, how perfect you are, how strong you remain, or how little you ask for. You are important simply because you are.

You were important on your hardest day.
You were important when you didn’t feel lovable.
You were important when you were tired, quiet, overwhelmed, or lost.

It’s easy to believe importance has to be proven—but it doesn’t. Real importance is inherent.

Sometimes the Words We Need Must Come From Ourselves

Maybe no one told you today, or this week, or this year.

So let these words reach you:

You are important.
Your presence affects people in ways you can’t always see.
Your kindness leaves a mark long after the moment is gone.
Your existence changes the energy in rooms and hearts.

You don’t need permission to feel valued.

A Gentle Challenge

Today, tell someone why they matter. A friend, your sister, your mother, or even a stranger. A simple message could be the reminder they’ve been silently craving.

And then—tell yourself.

Look in the mirror and say: